parenting teens with love and logic

kid's poor decisions and fussiness can be very tiring and annoying. how about a tool that will help you putyour energy back? it's effective. in love and logicâ® we call it the energy drain tool. theenergy drain tool is a practical way of teaching that misbehavior has aconsequence and it also teaches responsibility. thereare six steps to the energy drain tool. step one: show empathy. "ooh, that was a bad decision".

"oh man, that's too bad!". number two: "ooh that was a real energy drain when you yelled at your sister". be a little dramatic. fill in the misbehavior when you yell at your sister that really drains myenergy. step three: ask a question. how are we going to put that energy back? now weknow most kids would reply with "i don't know", so step four: you give them some options. here's some options.you can dust the house

or you can empty the trash in my office,unload the dishwasher. make sure those chores are personal for youand not chores that they would normally do and lastly be sure you set a deadlineand make it reasonable. "can you have it done by the end of the day?",and then you wait. the next step is you do not remind them orlecture them to do that chore to put your energy back. if they in fact do it, great. thank themfor it and don't lecture by saying wellremember when you did such-and-such that really bothered me.

let it go. the challenge is, what if theydon't do it? well then the last step would be youhave to have a plan, and that plan could be something likewell you're too tired to take them somewhere thatthey ask you to go because they didn't put your energy back.that making a plan has a few extra steps to it and i canhelp you with that but energy drain you will find is aneffective tool for letting children know that theirmisbehavior really tires you out and they're going to learn that when thecause an energy drain

it more work for them and less work foryou. if you'd like help with implementing theenergy drain

because it is an effective tool thatteaches behavior has a consequence to it and at the sametime is loving and enhances your relationship pleasegive me a call. thanks for watching.