parenting puzzle

so there's a big disconnect betweenwhat the parents expectations are and what their child is actually doing. in young children, in particular, if they feel something they're gonna dothe behavior in response to that feeling. sometimes it's confusing to us as parents.we would like to be able to flop and drop in the grocery store like our kids do right? someday we'd like to be able to do that.by the way you guys know that flopping and dropping with the tantrumis very purposeful. when kids flop and drop, they have a tantrum.they're exaggerating their

movements and emotions in order to get sensory-motor understanding up themselves.and once they do that, they get up from that tantrum and go, "love ya!"*kiss* and you're like, "wait a minute. everyoneon my block was in the grocery store when you were just doing this and you'relike you're good to go now? i don't get it why is everything okay with you." the reason is because they just went to the gym. they just went to the gym. they've been on the treadmill for anhour, and they're feeling great.

they got endorphins that are overflowing.they feel fantastic. they're so smoothed out completely smoothed out. so when they do smoothed out tantrums, the most important thing is what you do after a tantrum happens and that's by telling a child, "great. stop it." go right here in the prefrontal cortex.your arms and legs aren't moving. there's no more tears coming out of youreyes. way to go. you know how to stop. we're all very behavior focused. if you look at what drives the behavior,

then you start seeing some real changeso that's the difference really

between an adult brain in a child'sbrain. it it functions basically the same way,but children don't have as much equipment as parents do.