parenting is heart work

hey guys! it's crystal with triumphant learning. on today's triumphant minute i'd like to talk about reaching your child's heart. a lot of times as parents we will tell our children, "say you're sorry." when they've done something wrong or to offend somebody else, and i've come to realize, especially after reading the book parenting is heart work, that we do want our children to

apologize, but we want them to truly feel sorry before they do that. if they just say, "i'm sorry." it does not do anything in their heart and it really doesn't rebuild the relationship that they damaged. so, i have started telling my children, "when you are ready, in your heart you're sorry, i want you to apologize or you need to apologize not i

want, but you need to apologize. do it when your heart is in the right place. now, this has also come to be a little bit of a stalling tactic. one day my daughter said, "nope, mom, i'm not ready yet." and she was going to go on about her day. it was obvious that she was not trying to overcome this and trying to work through these emotions, but was just

trying to move on and get out of saying that she was sorry hoping that we would forget about it. so i made her go sit down and think about it until she was ready to come back and truly say she was sorry. so, i was having to look at the bigger picture of what part of this is character issue we need to address and in the process we were able to reach

your heart a little bit more and to help her work through these emotions that she was feeling and experiencing. i encourage you instead of just saying to your child, "say you're sorry." work toward reaching their heart. help them to feel that remorse in their hearts they can rebuild the relationship that they've

damage and in the process hopefully

build your relationship with your child and your child's relationship with god. until next time i hope you have a triumphant day!