in genesis, chapter 3, the verse that i wantedto focus on is there in verse 16, where the bible reads, "unto the woman, he said, 'iwill greatly multiple thy sorrow and thy conception, and sorrow thou shalt bring forth children,and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.'" i want to preachtonight a continuation of my sermon that i preached this morning. i preached long thismorning, but i still didn't get through all of the material that i wanted to preach about.i'm going to pick up where i left off and continue the sermon that i preached this morning.this morning i preached on the subject of birth control, and why, according to the biblebirth control is not right, it is a sin. it is not something that christian's should bepracticing, although 99% of our nation today
believes that it's acceptable. 99% of christiansand baptists believe it's acceptable. let me tell you something, that doesn't make itright. the bible, crystal clear this morning showed us what god thinks about that subject.i'm not going to re-preach this morning's sermon, because we already saw all those scripturesthis morning. if you missed it you can get the recording and listen to it. i want topreach a sermon tonight just about what effect birth control has had on women, on our societyin general, on our churches today, on families, on marriages. i want to pick up where we leftoff, but first of all let me point something out here in genesis 3:16.this is after adam and eve have sinned. they've taken of the forbidden fruit, and god is judgingthem. god is placing a curse upon the man,
for example, saying that for the rest of hislife he's going to have to till the ground, and there are going to be thorns. he's goingto have to work by the sweat of his face. then he speaks to the woman, and in verse16 he says, "unto the woman he said, 'i will greatly multiple thy sorrow and thy conception.in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children, and thy desire shall be to thy husband, andhe shall rule over thee.'" sometimes it's easy to read over things inthe bible, and not really stop and slow down, and let them sink in. this verse is packedwith information, in verse 16. this is a verse that we should not take lightly. it's a versethat contains a lot of truth that is later reiterated and dealt with in the bible. infact, in a moment i'm going to take you to
john, chapter 16, and if you want to startturning there you can. i'm going to compare for you what we see here in genesis 3 withwhat we see in john, chapter 16. what is saying here in genesis 3:16 to thewoman? "unto the woman he said, 'i will greatly multiply thy sorrow, and thy conception."two things are being multiplied in that verse, are they not? he says i'm going to multiplyyour sorrow, and i am going to multiply your conception. yet today, christians believethat it's just fine to say, "oh really god, you're going to multiply my conception? wellit's my body, it's my choice, and i'm going to take contraception." look, that is a mockeryof this verse. forget all of the proof that i laid out thismorning. all the different scriptures from
genesis or revelation proving that birth controlis wrong. what about just the fact that birth control makes a complete mockery of this verse.when god says, "this is what i've ordained for women going forward is that their sorrowand their conception will be multiplied." then they go out and take drugs, or use appliances,to stop that conception from taking place that he said would happen. think about that,let that sink in. what does it mean when he says, "i will multiplythy sorrow and thy conception." the sorrow that he's referring to is pain in childbirth.let me prove that to you from the bible. look at john, chapter 16, verse 20. it says, "verily,verily, i say unto you, that ye shall weep and lament, but the world shall rejoice, andye shall be sorrowful, but your sorrow shall
be turned into joy." verse 21, "a woman, whenshe is in travail," and the modern word we would use for that is being in labor. whenthe bible says being in travail, it means being in labor.it says, "a woman when she is in travail hath sorrow, because her hour has come, but assoon as she is delivered of it she remembereth no more the anguish for joy that a man isborn into the world. and ye now, therefore, have sorrow, but i will see you again, andyour heart shall rejoice, and your joy no man taketh from you." jesus christ is usingan illustration about childbirth to talk about the sorrow that they're going through overthe fact that jesus is going to die on the cross.he says, "you're sorrowing right now, but
your sorrow is going to turn into joy." justlike when a woman is in labor, when a woman's in travail, she has sorrow, but as soon asthe child is born she forgets all about that because she's so happy that the baby is borninto the world. this proves right here that the sorrow that's being referred to is thatagony of childbirth when we compare john 16 and genesis 3. whenever we want to definewords in the bible we just compare scripture with scripture, and let the bible define itself.if you've ever been there when a woman gave birth, you'll know this is true. childbirthis a very painful, agonizing process. yet, as soon as that baby is born that pain andsuffering is just immediately replaced with joy. it's a really beautiful thing to watch.i've see, i watched, thank god, i haven't
missed any of my children being born. allseven of my children, i was there when they were born. it is literally a life changingexperience to be there at the birth of a child. to see my wife in so much pain and suffering,and agony, but then the moment that that baby's born it's over. she's so happy, and there'sso much joy. it really is life changing, it really is a powerful feeling when you're there.that's what jesus is talking about here, that's what we see here.what i want to show you from this is that also using birth control, it robs us of alot of joy in our lives. yes, there is sorrow associated with childbirth. yes, it is painful.my wife is expecting our eighth right now, and she's dreading going into labor. she'ssaying, "i don't want to go into labor because
it's so painful. i don't want to do this again."she's already done it so many times. when the time comes she always does it, she alwaysdoes great, it's over, and she has the joy. it robs us of joy in our lives, because thebible tells us, and if you would turn to psalm 113. psalm 113, but let me read for you from3rd john, verse 4. john said, "i have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk intruth." according to john there's great joy when a man is born into the world, when ababy's born. then later when that child grows up and lives for the lord, and serves thelord, there is no greater joy than to have your children walking in truth and to raiseup children that would serve the lord with their life. there's nothing greater than that.psalm 113, verse 7, says this. "he raiseth
up the poor out of the dust and lifteth theneedy out of the dunghill that he may set in with princes, even with the princes ofhis people he maketh the barren woman to keep house and to be a joyful," notice that word,"a joyful mother of children. praise ye the lord." children bring joy to our lives. theybring joy to a mother's life. they bring joy to a father's life. i can't tell you how manytimes per day we rejoice in our children. it's fun to be around them. they bring joy,they bring smiles to our face every single day. we love having our children.those who practice birth control are being robbed of the joy of having children. sure,they get to skip the sorrow that comes with having children. they get to skip that sorrowthat was prescribed by god, by the way, as
his will, but they're also missing out onthe joy. sometimes we have to go through sorrow in our life to get to the joy. sometimes thepain leads us to joy. if you would, look back to genesis 3;16. we're not done there. i wantto point out one other thing about this verse. then i'm going to get into the effects. theharmful effects on our society, on mothers, on churches, et cetera.look if you would at genesis 3:16, it says, "unto the woman, he said, 'i will greatlymultiply thy sorrow and thy conception. in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children andthy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee.'" if you look at thebirth control movement, which really began in earnest in the early part of the 20th century.before that, birth control was very rarely
used in this nation. it was pretty much condemnedby all religions of our nation and our culture did not accept it until the early 20th century.at the same time was the feminist movement. these two things go hand in hand because theteaching behind birth control is that it frees women of the bondage of being strapped tothe house with all these children. in reality, there is some truth to the fact that havinga bunch of children does tie a woman to her husband. but that's a good thing. it doestie a woman to that household. that's good. that's the will of god. that's a family. that'swhat we're supposed to be. not just having women going out and doing whatever. just livingtheir life freestyle, free as a bird. that's not the plan in the bible.you see that it's mentioned in the same verse.
he's telling the woman, "look, you're goingto have a lot of children. i'm going to multiple your conception." the average woman has abouteight children if you just look at countries where birth control is not practiced. if yougo back in history in the united states before birth control became prevalent. eight or ninechildren. that's a lot of children. he says, "i'm going to multiple your conception. you'regoing to have a lot of children. you're going to have desire toward your husband and heis going to rule over you." it's the same movement that says, "husband'sshould not rule over their wives." that's the exact same movement that's going to say,"don't multiply conception." do you see how those two things go ... it's the same verse.these are the things that women today and
the feminist movement are rebelling against.genesis 3:16 is the antithesis of everything that they believe in, but if we're bible believingchristians, this ought to be a verse that we memorize and love and follow. it's theword of god. it's what god has spoken. we see that those two things go hand in hand.number one, let's look at the effect of birth control upon the mother. we're going to lookat different areas that are affected. first of all, we see the effect that basically thewoman now is quote-unquote liberated or freed of the bondage of having all these children.now she is one that cares more about a career and has all these other plans in her life.are you there in genesis 3? jump down to verse 20. look at verse 20 of genesis 3, it says,"and adam called his wife's name eve because
she was the mother of all living." what iwant to point out about that verse is that even her name is derived from the fact thatshe's a mother. she's called "eve" because she's the motherof all living. this is where women have derived their identity throughout history. this isan important part of being a woman. being a mother. yet today, because of birth control,because we've basically given women the power, we've empowered them to decide, "hey, i don'twant to have children. i want to wait a long time to have children." this becomes a partof their life that goes on the back burner. it creates a mentality that says, "my primaryrole is not to get married, bear children, and guide the house" as 1 timothy, chapter5 teaches, "but rather my main goal is my
career. my main goal is to go to college andto graduate from college and i'm going to be a lawyer, and i'm going to be a doctor,and i'm going to be a marine biologist. that's my main thing. when i'm ready i guess i'llalso have a husband too, while i'm at it. my main thing is to be a politician. my mainthing is to run a business. my main thing is my career, but i guess i'll add a husbandinto the mix and i guess, if i want, i'll schedule a few children. maybe one, two."this is not the way that the bible looks at this and this is not the way that we shouldlook at this. but it's the way the world looks at it now because of birth control. it usedto be a young woman, she gets married, she has children, and that's her job. that's howshe's going to live her life. that's the way
god designed it. you say, "ah, that's terrible."actually, it's joyful. actually, being a mother, being a housewife, that's a very good jobto have. it's an honorable way to live your life too. don't let the world tell you, "oh,you're just a housewife? oh, you're just a mother? you're unemployed?" they literallycount my wife as unemployed. she's not unemployed. she doesn't want to be employed.she's a mother. she's a wife. she doesn't need to go out and get some other job. that'sthe way our society has become. that's the way women have become. we already talked aboutit this morning. i'm not going to talk about it again. we talked about some of the physicalhealth effects, for example, the birth control pills, all the damage that they do to a woman'sbody. i'm not going to rehash that, but i
forgot to mention this. brother joe rodriguez,he mentioned to me. he worked at a plasma donation center where you go and they takeyour blood and you donate the plasma and they do all that. he said that normally the plasmais orange or yellow, the plasma in the blood, but he said that when women are on birth control,their plasma is green. they come in and their plasma is glowing green.he's like, "what in the world?" it turns out they're on birth control. women who take birthcontrol pills, heir plasma is green. that shows you ... remember the life of the fleshis in the blood. when your blood's turning green, that shows you the systemic effectsthat birth control is having on your body. people say," it's green but it's harmless.don't worry about it." right. okay. sure.
do you trust them? i don't know. not only... go to 1 timothy, chapter 5, if you would. 1 timothy, chapter 5. not only are there physicalhealth effects of these birth control pills, they cause all the things that we talked aboutthis morning. i'm not going to rehash all that, but not only that, they have effectson their character as well. okay. we already talked about the fact that it causes themto look at child bearing as a side issue to more important things like the career andeverything else that they are doing. when in reality, eve derived her very name fromthe fact that she was a mother. that was her primary identifying feature is that she wasthe mother of all living. look if you would to 1 timothy, chapter 5,verse 13, it says, "and withall, they learned
to be idle." what does "idle" mean? it meansyou're not doing anything. you're sitting around. a car's idling when it's not goinganywhere. he says, "withall they learned to be idle, wandering about from house to house,and not only idle, but [tattlers 00:16:28] also and busybodies speaking things whichthey ought not. i will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guidethe house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully for some are alreadyturned aside after satan." we see here that women who are not busy aboutbeing married, busy about having children, and busy about guiding the house, they willget into sin, the bible says. they become idle, they become lazy, they become tattlers,they become gossips. let me tell you something,
a woman who is having children is not idle.it's pretty much impossible to be idle when you have a lot of children because you'regoing to be busy. we live in a society of idle women because of the fact that they don'thave children. again, if god hasn't blessed you with children yet, or if god has onlyblessed you with one child, that's a whole different scenario.that's god's choice. that's god saying, "okay, i'm going to put you in this position." godcan get you through that and god can allow you to live a good godly christian life andfind other things to do and so forth. when women are just setting out to go against god'swill and to hinder having children, that's something else altogether. they step outsideof the will of god. they become idle, they
become tattlers, they become busybodies becausethey just don't have the work that women have that are having children that they're supposedto be having. not only does it affect the mother, it affectsour whole society. go to leviticus, chapter 19. leviticus, chapter number 19. not onlydoes birth control do damage to women, it hurts their body if they're using the pillsand it also affects their character, causing them to be an idle, tattler, gossip, turningaside after satan and everything else. it changes their mentality and the way that theylook at having children. in fact, here's a perfect example. i've got some advertisementsfor birth control from some magazines from this week.it's easy to find this stuff. if you just
grab a few parenting magazines or family magazines,just leaf through. you'll find this stuff pretty fast. let me just show you how perversethe view toward children is today. this is a birth control ad, it says, "maybe it's timeto break up with your current birth control and ask about the 100% hormone-free, morethan 99% effective paraguard. intra-uterine copper contraceptive iud." here's what i wantto point out about this ad. you look at that ad and say, "oh, what's the big deal? it'sa piece of copper that you're putting inside your body to stop you from getting pregnant.so what?" okay. well, what about the fact that thisdrug is called ... i'm sorry. this device is called "paraguard." stop and think aboutthat name. "paraguard." i remember one time
seeing a product on the shelf called "paragone."it was telling you how to get parasites gone. you buy a product, for example, let's sayyour dog has pinworms or let's say a person has some kind of intestinal parasite in theirbody, they'll buy products like paragone. this is called paraguard. this will guardyou from having a parasite in your body known as a child. isn't that just a bizarre name?why is it called paraguard? it shows you psychologically what they're doing. they're telling you it'sa parasite. i've even heard pregnant women refer to it as having a parasite. have youever heard that? the baby, this parasite in their body. this woman looks like she's experiencingall this freedom. here's another ad. i found this at ... here'sa vintage birth control ad. this is from,
i don't know, i guess the 60's or something.it's annette funicello. who knows who annette funicello is? okay. nobody? two people. annettefunicello. anybody know who that is? wasn't she on the mickey mouseketeers? she was achild star on the mickey mouseketeers and then later she was an actress and this andthat. here's an ad with annette funicello. she's in a bathing suit surrounded by fourmen. four different men. these blond haired beach guys and she's got her hand on one andshe's talking to another one. it says, "that's right boys. i'm on the pill."now think about that. not, "that's right, my husband," "that's right boys." that's rightboys, i'm on the pill. m-i-c-k-e-y m-o-u-s-e. i'm a whore. i'm on the pill. come fornicatewith me. this is what birth control does to
our society. not only does it affect women,not only does it affect the mother, it corrupts her view of childbearing, it corrupts hercharacter, it corrupts her blood plasma, it corrupts her health. this is what it doesto our society. it promotes promiscuity. it promotes whoredom. it teaches this mentalityof, "hey, i'm on the pill, boys." what kind of an ungodly, wicked advertisementis that? what kind of a woman would want to be associated with that type of advertisingto say, "hey, all four of you. i'm on the pill"? "don't worry about it. i'm on the pill."look what leviticus 19:29 says. i'm turning to leviticus 19:29. we could pretty much turnto a hundred different verses right now if you want. just about fornication, and whoredom,and harlots, and all that, but here it says,
"do not prostitute thy daughter to cause herto be a whore lest the land fall to whoredom and the land become full of wickedness." ijust used that verse just to point out the fact that a land can fall to whoredom. theunited states today fits that bill. if anybody has ever fit that bill it's the united statesof america. he says, "i don't want the land of israelto fall to whoredom." we're there in america. we have arrived at that point in the unitedstates. he says, "don't prostitute thy daughter to cause her to be a whore." stop and thinkabout the fact that in public schools today they have education classes. you know whateducation classes. these classes teach the children how to use what? birth control. that'sthe purpose of the class. you say, "well,
that's not true." i went to public schooland i opted out of the class because they said if you have a religious objection, youcan opt out of the class. i was in sixth grade. i knew that i wasn'tsupposed to be going to this class. i knew my parents didn't want me to go there. i knewthat it was not right. i brought home the form to my parents and had them sign the formso that i could opt out of the public school you-know-what education classes. here's thething. i got it all secondhand from all the kids who went there. they told us all whatit was about, of course. for weeks afterward they were all talking about it. even thoughi didn't attend the classes themselves, they're talking about it for weeks afterward.they were taught how to use contraceptives.
they were taught how to use. what is thatsaying? they say, "well, they also tell them abstinence." this is what it is. "all rightkids. abstain, but if you don't, use this." it's like hint-hint, wink-wink, nod-nod. "we'rekind of supposed to tell you to abstain, but here's the green light because we're teachingyou how to do it and to avoid the consequences." in time past, there were consequences to thosewho would fornicate. in time past, the young child, the teenager who would fornicate wouldface the consequences of the teenage pregnancy. they would be a shame and an execration tothe whole community when a girl would get pregnant and it was something that peoplereally looked down upon. now they are teaching the children at age 10, 11, 12, 13. even beforethey are even to that point yet. training
them and teaching them so that as soon asthey get to that point, they are able to do it quote/unquote safely. no, there's no safely.you know what safely is? after you're married. that's what's safe. anything else is whoredomand fornication, and it is harlotry, it is wickedness, it is ungodly. the bible callsit uncleanness and yet today in our public schools birth control is being taught untoyoung children, thereby teaching them that they can go out and do all this stuff andhave no consequence for their actions. you know what? there's a consequence withgod almighty. you can never escape god's consequences even if you think that you've escaped man'sconsequences or physical consequences. not only that, but our society has become so degeneratedthat we think that birth control today is
like a human right or something. we probablyhave all heard about the hobby lobby lawsuit and situation. who's heard about the situationwith hobby lobby? most of the hands in the room are going up.what it all boils down to is that hobby lobby doesn't want to buy birth control for theirworkers. they don't want to pay for their workers to use birth control because theydon't believe in it. they don't believe in these pills and they don't want to pay forit. the way that the media will try to spin this is "they're not letting these women usebirth control. they're trying to force their workers to live a christian life." that'sa lie. that's not even true. what it really is is they just don't want to pay for it.there's nothing stopping any worker at hobby
lobby from going out and buying whatever birthcontrol they want to buy. if they want to go to the store and they want to go to thedoctor and the pharmacy and buy birth control, they can go knock themselves out and do that.what it is is that now businesses that don't even believe in it are being forced to payfor it. they call this an attack on women. the waron women. they call this a violation of women's rights. "you won't buy my accouterments, soi can go be a whore. you won't buy them for me." they had this lady come testify beforecongress about obamacare. okay? i forget. what was her name? does anybody remember?this horrible ... i'm trying to think of a word that's not too offensive. i want to usea word that's offensive, but not too offensive.
you know? this whore. whatever she is. shewas a college student. she's not married. she's testifying before congress about howshe just couldn't afford all her birth control through college. she's trying to put herselfthrough law school at georgetown and she just can't afford all the birth control and it'snot fair and it's not right and somebody needs to pay for my birth control.you're not married. you're supposed to be a virgin. you're not supposed to be doingthat. yet today our society is degenerated so much that we think that that's a humanright. it's like food, [raiment 00:28:21], and birth control are the three basic needsapparently of our lives. it's bizarre. then there's this whole slew of new advertising.okay? these obamacare ads that promote promiscuity
and talk about birth control. for example,i saw this ad and it's this "got insurance" campaign. it's put out by these differentliberal groups and progressive groups in colorado and different places. it's a pro-obamacareadvertising of the liberals. in this ad, it shows a picture of a man anda woman and it says "omg he's hot. let's hope he's as easy to get as this birth control.my health insurance covers the pill, which means all i have to worry about is gettinghim between the covers. i got insurance. thanks, obamacare." these are the type of ads thatthese groups are putting out to promote obamacare and to get people to sign up for insurance.another ad showed a guy doing a handstand on top of a beer keg and he says "if i falland hurt myself, i'm covered because i have
insurance thanks to obamacare." i'm not evenjoking. you'd think it was a parody. you'd literallythink that this is a mockery that christians are putting out just to make fun of our sinfulworld or that conservatives are putting out to attack obamacare. no, these are liberalprogressive groups showing, "hey, i can get my flu shots and i can take shots of hardliquor." it's showing all these women and they're drinking and they're all covered andthey have insurance and it's great. they're drinking and fornicating and they're saying,"hey, baby." it shows men and women chatting each other up like, "hey baby, i've got insurance.all we have to worry about is getting it on because we've already got all the obamacarecovering our birth control."
then it says at the bottom. "warning: it'snot going to protect you from std's. you still got to buy more stuff." but your insurancewill probably cover all that too. it's sick. it's disgusting. it's wicked. it's evil. letme tell you something. this is what our country is becoming. you know what christians wantto do? they want to get as close to it as they can without going over the cliff. ifwe would have been on god's program all along, if we would have had a biblical view of marriage,if we would have had a biblical view of child-rearing, if we would have had a biblical view of birthcontrol, our society wouldn't be going to hell in a handbasket. god said, "if my peoplewhich are called by my name shall pray and humble themselves and seek my face and turnfrom their wicked ways, then will i hear from
heaven and will forgive their sin and willheal their [limb 00:31:22]." if the light that is in us be darkness, how great is thatdarkness? even god's people and even churches todayare totally in defiance of god's program for the family. obviously the world's going totake it a step further. we see that birth control has had a destructive effect on womenand their mentality and on their attitude and on their lifestyle. we see that it's physicallydamaged their bodies. we see that it's had a horrible effect on our society turning ourcountry over to whoredoms in general. not only that, thirdly, it has had a negativeeffect on marriage today. it effects marriage adversely when birth control is used.let me just point out a study that was done
in august of 2013. i thought this was interesting.a new study conducted by ohio state university. they studied 57,000 adults between 1972 and2012, they found that children who grow up in large families have lower rates of divorce.children who grow up in a large family are less likely to get divorced. they said thereis a meaningful gap in the probability of divorce when you compare children with largefamilies to those with one child. every child you add up to a certain point keeps on gettingyou're less likely to get a divorce. if you came from a family of three versus two, fourversus three, five versus four. you have seven kids in the family, you'reless likely to get a divorce. why? because large families are preferable to small families.again, it's different if god gives you a small
family. that's god's will. god knows whathe's doing. god is in control. when we take god out of control, it doesn't make any senseto just have a small family on purpose when a large family has benefits. when you seea statistic like this, it just shows you. not only that, if you think about it, havingchildren together is going to draw the family closer. using birth control creates a selfishmentality of we're all going to do our own thing.i don't really have this in my notes but i think another thing to consider when you thinkabout the effect of birth control on a family is that the children that you have, they seeyou using birth control and saying, "oh yeah, we're done. we don't want any more. we'redone." how do you think that makes the children
feel? again, if your child knows my parentsonly have one child, two child, three child because that's all god gave them, but theylove us and they want more, no problem. when your children just know that you stopped afterthem. you're having children, having children, and then they're born and you're like, "we'redone." it's got to make them feel a little bit badlike maybe they're not that ... think about this. what if you find out that you're expectinganother child, right? let's say you've got four children and you find out the fifth childis on the way. you call your parents and say, "hey mom and dad, i've got great news. we'vegot another child on the way." what if they said to you, "another one? you guys are havinganother one?" wouldn't you be offended?
you're like, "it happens all the time." ifyour brother or sister acted like, "what? you're having another one?" the thing that'sso offensive about it is ... here's what i've often even said to people when they act like,"oh, you're going to have more?" i always say, "well, which of my children would youprefer that i had not had?" it stands to reason that if you love your children, if you'rederiving joy from your children, if children are a blessing as the bible teaches, thenyou'd want more. if children are a pain in the neck to you, you don't want more becausewhy would you want another pain in the neck? by the way, if you raise your children right,you'll have joy of them. if you spare the rod, you'll hate your son. you have to understandthat if we raise our children right that's
part of wanting more. if we raise our childrenthe way the world tells us to raise them, i wouldn't want more of those either. whenwe bring them up in the nurture and [admiration 00:35:59] of the lord, when the disciplinethem and teach them right, they will give us rest. they will bring us joy in our lives.i remember one time my dad making a statement one time when i was growing up about ... i'mnot going to repeat the exact statement that he made, but my dad made a statement one timesomething to the effect that he was really glad that he had the children that he had.i remember feeling so loved thinking to myself, "wow, my dad really gets a lot of joy fromthe four of us children." he made a statement, i'm not going to repeat exactly what he said,but it was a statement that basically showed
that he got a lot of joy in his life fromthe fact that he had had four children. i remember feeling very loved hearing himsay that. our children, they perceive whether we love them or not and how much we love themand i think that we're sending them a message that says, "we don't love you that much becausewe don't want more like you." whereas, if you just want to keep having more they feellike children are an asset in this family. we're a blessing, we're loved, we're welcomein this family. some people literally say to their child, "you were an accident. wedidn't even want to have you." what an awful thing to say. "i was going to abort you. wedidn't even want to have you." that's a horrible thing to say to your child, but there arepeople who say things like that to their children
all the time.i've known people who have said things like that to their children. obviously less extreme,but when you have two and then you start using a bunch of birth control, you're kind of sayingthat in a sense. like, "hey, we don't want more. we don't want children. we have ourtwo obligatory children and we're done." number one, it has a negative impact on the woman,number two, it has a negative impact on society, number three, it has a negative impact onmarriage. did i have you turn to proverbs, chapter 5?proverbs, chapter number 5. we already talked about the fact that there is a study out thatsaid bigger families, lower divorce rate. we've also seen the statistics that say themost common time to get a divorce are in the
first two years of marriage and the firsttwo years after the last child leaves the home. that shows you that the children area factor. a lot of people stay together for the children. have you ever heard that? peopledidn't get a divorce. they're going to stay together for the children.here's how marriage works. marriage has low points. marriage has ups and downs. anybodywho's been married for any length of time knows that you're not always doing great,everything's awesome, we're like newlyweds all the time. that's not reality all the time.there are times where you go through a low point in marriage but if you hang in there,if you stick it out, if you love the lord, if you love your spouse, you'll get throughthat and, honestly, i can say that i've had
many times in my marriage that were much betterthan being a newlywed even 13, 14 years in. you can get to the point again where the loveis rekindled in a greater way than it ever has been.i honestly can say that my marriage has been better in the last year than in the wholetime leading up to that. even better than when we were first married. our love is stronger.our relationship is better than it has ever been. people who quit during the low points,they never get to that. they think it was good when we got married, it went downhill,downhill, downhill and then they quit. there's such a great joy in going through the hardtimes, going through the trial, going through the valley, going through the low point, andcoming out the other side to reach all new
heights of marital bliss.that is the reality of those who are in it for the long haul. they enjoy marriage inways that other people can never even understand who've never gone through it. people saying,"oh, that's just horrible if they just stay together for the children." here's the point,if they stay together for the children, in that time they can fix things often. in thattime, the love can be rekindled. in that time, they can both grow in the lord, grow in wisdom,grow in grace, and once again have a great marriage and say, "man, i'm so glad that westayed married, so glad we didn't quit when it was rough. we stayed married."children are a reason why people stay together. that's why when the last child leaves thehome they look at each other and say, "well,
we're not staying together for the children"and they get divorced. i could name for you many people that i know who got divorced withintwo years of the last child leaving the home. it's true. not only is the statistic there,i could give you the stories from my own life that i know. people that i know.not only that, it can have other negative effects on a marriage. not only does it increasethe divorce likelihood, not only does it also ... if a woman is taking the birth controlpills, for example, because she's having all these hormonal imbalances from the pills andbecoming a basket case, that's not going to help your marriage. that's just going to createall kinds of friction and problems right there. not only that, one of the popular methodsof birth control that christians will use,
and i briefly touched on this this morning,but i want to mention it a little bit further tonight, a lot of christians will say, "well,okay, birth control pills are poisonous, they have all these bad effects, and they alsocause a lot of early abortions, a lot of times the egg is fertilized but it just dies becauseof the effects of the birth control. i covered that this morning and i've got all the scienceon that. they'll say, "well, we don't do that stuffand we're not going to be like onan because god killed onan." they'll use what's callednatural family planning. this natural family planning is a pretty popular birth controlmethod amongst catholics and amongst bible believing christians. catholics are not biblebelieving christians, just so you know. anyway,
catholics use it also a lot of evangelicalbible believing christians use it. it's pretty popular today amongst people who don't wantto use the really bad forms of birth control but they still don't want to have the kidsand multiply and so forth. they use what's called natural family planning.it's also known as the rhythm method. what this refers to is the fact that they willcalculate using an app or software when the time of the month is that the woman is motlikely to conceive, when the egg is being released. in a month's time, they'll havea black out period of, say, five to seven days and they'll say, "we are going to abstainfrom any physical activity between the husband and wife during these five to seven days.we're going to abstain from a physical relationship
in order to avoid pregnancy. again, this stillviolates god's commands to trust him, be fruitful and multiply.let me tell you how this could be detrimental to the marital relationship. first of all,look at proverbs, chapter 5. it says in verse 18, "let thy fountain be blessed and rejoicewith the life of thy youth. let her be as the loving hind and pleasant row. let herbreasts satisfy thee at all times and be thou ravished always with her love. and why wiltthou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger."verse 20 right there explains to us that if we are having the proper relationship withthe wife of our youth, we will not desire to be ravished with a strange woman. do yousee that? he says, "enjoy your wife and then
why would you even want to go to a strangerbecause you're satisfied with what you have." this is exactly what 1 corinthians 7 teacheswhen it says, "nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and let everywoman have her own husband." the bible says that to avoid fornication, have that properrelationship within marriage to avoid the temptation to fornicate. he reiterates thatin 1 corinthians 7:5 when he says, "defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consentfor a time that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come together againthat satan tempt you not for your inconstancy." god is warning us that people will be temptedby satan if they are abstaining from a physical relationship with their spouse. if the husbandand wife are not having that relationship,
that gives satan the opportunity to temptthem. that's why he said it's so important not to defraud one another in that area. hesays, "only would you separate if it be with consent for a time to give yourselves to fastingand prayer." this natural family planning or rhythm method, it is not saying let's takefive days of fasting and prayer. it's not a week of fasting and prayer. you're not goingwithout food for five days. you're not going without food during that time.what you're doing is skipping that relationship during that time just to not get pregnant.you say, "well, pastor anderson so what? what's the big deal? you got the whole month laidout. you got all these other times that you can do it. you just don't do it during thattime. what's the big deal? so what? just skip
it for those days. you got all these otherdays to work with." here's the problem with that. number one, there's another black outperiod each month that the bible talks about. now you've got two five to seven day blackoutseach month. now you've just chopped off half your month right there, gone.that doesn't necessarily mean that every other day is going to work out either but here'sthe most damaging aspect of all is that it is a scientifically proven fact, as well asjust can be anecdotally observed in anyone's life, that the black out period, that naturalfamily planning recommends, while the woman's ovulating, is the best time to have that relationshipbecause of the fact that that is when women are most interested in that relationship becauseit's a natural process of their body that
when they are the most fertile, that whenthey release that egg, that is also when they have the most desire. that is also when theyare the most attracted to their husband. scientifically proven fact that women aremore attractive to their husband during that black out period, the ovulation time, thetime when they could get pregnant, and they are more attracted to him during that time.basically, the time when both husband and wife are the most attracted to each otherand would have the most enjoyment from that physical relationship, would enjoy it themost, is the time that they're being told don't do it during that time. that's not goingto help your relationship. how can that be helpful to your marriage that the time thatyou want to do it the most is when it's off
limits? it just doesn't make any sense. notto mention that half the month is off limits practically. by the time you factor in theother black out period that everybody knows what i'm talking about.of course when you follow god's plan, when you live your life according to god's willand you're having a lot of children, you're wife's pregnant a lot and your wife's breastfeedinga lot. when your wife's pregnant or breastfeeding, there's no blackout period of either kind.therefore, it's better for marriage. you can have a better relationship within marriage.this is a detrimental effect on marriage when you use that method.lastly this, we talked about the detrimental effect on women. we talked about the detrimentaleffect on society. it gets turned over to
promiscuity and whoredom. we talked aboutthe negative effect on a marriage, whether it's by turning the wife into this hormonal,upset, whatever, mood swing, all the different things that come with the pills, or naturalfamily planning. just having to skip all this physical relationship that's supposed to bethere. fourthly, birth control has had a very negative effect on churches. what am i talkingabout? churches are devoid of young people. why?because they were never born. go to judges, chapter 14. judges, chapter 14. think aboutthis now. if you go to the average independent fundamental baptist church across america.i'm not talking about our church. i'm saying if you go to the average independent fundamentalbaptist church, you will find a lot of elderly
people in that church. a lot. a lot of elderlypeople and very few teenagers. have you noticed that? tons of elderly, very few teenagers.why is that? that's not normal. there's a problem there. why isn't there aneven distribution of men, women, children, teenagers, elderly? we love the elderly. thebible says the hoary head is a crown of glory if it be found in the way of righteous. thebible says we should rise up before the hoary head and honor the face of the old man. welove the elderly, but let me tell you something. something is wrong in a church that is justfilled with elderly and you don't have the young there. there's something wrong there.there's something wrong with that picture. let me tell you something. there's a storythat is being played out across america in
churches everywhere, independent fundamentalbaptist churches. you can deny this all you want. you can say that's not true. yes itis true. across america today you have young people and teenagers in independent baptistchurches and they have no friends to fellowship with or very few and they don't have anyoneto date and marry in these churches. the youth is just not there. where are they all? i likethis verse. look at judges 14:3. this is samson. samsonwants to marry a philistine girl. samson wants to marry a heathen girl. is that right? isit right for him to want to marry the heathen? no. look what his parents tell him. "thenhis father and his mother said to him, 'is there never a woman among the daughters ofthy brethren or among all my people that thou
goest to take a wife of the uncircumsizedphilistines?' and samson said unto his father, 'get her for me for she pleaseth me well.'"samson's wrong here. he's doing wrong, he's committing sin, but let me say this though,a lot of our young people are going to the world and dating liberals and dating unbelieversand i'm not condoning it. i'm not making excuses for it.they're wrong to do that, but at least, wouldn't it be nice if we could look at our childrenand say, "look, johnny, look susie, why are you going out and dating the unsaved whenwe've got a church full of young people for you to be dating? look at all these christiangirls. look at all these christian young men. why don't you spend some time with them andwhy don't you get to know them? why don't
you marry one of them? because they're notthere. it's a sad condition today in churches when there's so few young people. aside froma few major mega churches and bible colleges where all the young people from the wholenation congregate ... you go to your average baptist church when your 16, 17 years oldand you're looking for friends, you're looking for fellowship, you're looking for somebodyto date and marry so that you can follow god's plan for your life. you sit there and there'snobody there. there's barely anybody there. it's obvious why. if people are having twochildren on average instead of nine children on average, which would be the average ifyou're not using birth control, 8 or 9. there's going to be less young people. it's just simplemath folks. if god's people would actually
reproduce we'd have four times as many youngpeople. where are they all? they weren't born. you look around our church on a sunday morning.this morning we had 112 people or whatever. there's 30 some kids. of that 112 people,35 of them are 12 and under. in the age bracket of eight and under, kidsthat are one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, we have little kids running aroundall over the place. one thing that our kids can't complain about here in this church isthat they don't have friends to play with. there are friends everywhere. now look atall the teenagers our church has. there aren't any. you say, "well why do you have all thesekids then?" i'll tell you why. because i've been preaching against birth control everyyear for the past eight years. that's why
we have all these little kids here. you say,"well, why are there all these little ... you just happen to have a lot of little kids atyour church." uh, no. i'm not going to ask for a raise of hands,but if i asked for a raise of hand, who in here had more kids because they heard sermonsabout birth control. a lot of hands would pop up and say, "yeah, that's why i have fivekids." one day, i want to just get a ... people are always contacting me saying i had morekids because i heard your sermon. one day i want to get a photo album of all the kidsthat were born because of this kind of preaching that would have never even existed. what i'msaying is i've been preaching this for eight years because i've been pastoring for eightyears.
we, in our church, yes, we are changing thetrend. yes, in our church, we're doing right and we are producing a generation of godlyyoung people. when our kids grow up, they're going to have a church full of teenagers.you know what the sad thing is? the churches across america, they're not doing that. somefamilies in our church will move away to other churches and then other families will movehere in their place. the reality is that everybody suffers. all baptist churches suffer becausethe youth is gone because they had so few kids that there's just a smaller youth groupthan there should be. you can say whatever you want, you can say, "well, these youngpeople just need to do right." i know they need to do right. i know they should neverdate a non-believer. i'm not making excuses
for them, but wouldn't it be easier to servegod if you had a church with 30 young people in it?they could have all kinds of young men and young ladies to fellowship with. you say,"there's one girl in the church that's single that's your age." that might not be the personthat you want to marry, that one person. you probably want to have some choices. youngladies probably want to have a choice of young men and young men probably want a choice ofyoung ladies. not just "i'm single, you're single, we're the only ones in the church,i guess this is meant to be. this is destiny. this is fate. we are the only singles in thischurch. let's set a date." do you see how birth control can have farreaching effects that we don't even think
about? destroying the demographic of the localchurch. destroying the demographic. if every church in america were doing what we're doingand had the preaching that i did this morning and the preaching that i did tonight, youknow what? every church would be filled with a bunch of little kids running around. everychurch would be filled with teenagers. if this preaching had been going on for the past20 years, then all that generation 20 years ago would have had a bunch of kids and thenthey'd all be grown up, they'd be teenagers, and then there'd be fellowship, there'd beopportunities, there'd be a better youth group, and everybody would be blessed.everybody would be better off. even those that have a big family suffer by everybodyelse using birth control because then it's
like their kids grow up and it's like, "okay,we're here. we exist. where's everybody else?" they were never born because mom and dad weretoo busy with everything else that was more important to them than doing what god toldthem to do and raising children. it's had a negative effect on the church. it's ruinedthe demographic. that's why churches are filled with elderly people because birth controlhas been going on heavily for the last 60 years. that's why you have all these peoplethat are 70, 80 years old. then you have less and less as you go down.it dwindles as you get to the younger and younger generation. obviously, our churchis changing that because we have this baby boom that could be happening in every churchin america right now if pastor's would just
get up and preach the bible. it has a negativeeffect. again, if you missed the sermon this morning, i highly recommend you listen toit, but between this morning and tonight, i hope you get a picture of why this is soimportant, why this is a big issue that will really make or break us in a lot of ways inour marriages, and in our church, and in our society. let's get a biblical view on thisand not be deceived by the world. let's bow our heads and have a word of prayer.father, we thank you so much for your word, lord, and we thank you for the truth. god,i pray that, not only our church, but other churches would begin to wake up to the deceptionthat the devil has successfully carried out
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over all these years and that there wouldbe a generation of young people that would
be raised up, a great army of christian soldiers,that would be able to serve you and fellowship with one another and marry one another andnot be defiled amongst the heathen, lord. please help it to start in our homes and inour church, in jesus' name we pray-
