parenting goals

pat: it's the new year, time for new parenting goals, our fab mom is here to share three things you can stop doing for your kids immediately for happier and healthier household in 2017, joining us on sofa here. is garth. which is appropriate.

garth: i'm sorry, i am thinking of adopting a 26-year-old. pat: listen, garth, this is -- we're doing too much for our kids. yes, and all seriousness, hello pat, happy new year. i found this most moving piece floats on facebook last week,

called, we're killing our kids and calling it love, how we are unintintentionally, doing thing, saying things, giving things that are not contributing to developing a positive character for our kids in the long run. here is first clue to show you, one of our viewer sent in a mom,

she is holding everything under the sun, has two dogs, and pushing a stroller, stop carrying everything for the small kids, mommy can you hole hold my doll, jacket. pat: and you are carrying it, i hear you on that one. everything, and all parents

we want to take care of our kids, but at a cost. you know for young ones it is okay for us, me included. my 4-year-old, they know, if you take that doll to the restaurant of course you are holding it not me, that teaches themselve reline and responsibility.

pat: and stop making excuses for our children. yes, i was talking with a few different moms about this, i say we're making excuses, a lot of times, this happens. our kids have that child or the teacher or with the coach, there is an

issue with them, we want to stop are on the our kids -- support our kids did you at same time, as parents into this new year, let's check ourselves and be more objective, what did my kid do to incite that, maybe i need to address and help it.

pat: we know they are not perfect, it is okay if they are not perfect, that not a bad mark. pat: snr right. right. pat: you brought a clip of a popular video, millennials, in the workforce.

so i keep meeting great fantastic hard working smart kids they just graduated school, they are in their en relevel job, i sit down with them, i say how is it going, they say, i think i'm going to quit, i can ask why, they say i'm not making an impact, i say, have you been

here 8 months, everything you want you could have instantly, except job satisfaction and strength in relationships there is no app for that. that is a well said, that seem on this video from inside quest, you can find it on-line. it is also on my facebook page,

our kids are impatient. they could watch any movie at any time, listen to any song, it is not faring well whether they grow up and have to work for something at a job in college, in school. we need -- pat: and you can't always have

it at your fingerprints. you can't. true. pat: or communicate. patience, make them wait for the movie, it starts when they are young. pat: we'll start with garth too. the doctor handed me to my

mom, she handed him a restraining order. thank you, jill. you could connection with us on cbs l.a. facebook page.

for more like this, jill with an eye opening chat of long-term benefits for parents and kids. thank you.