parenting from the inside out

- part of what i've beendoing over the last 20 years is actually to offer adefinition of the mind that parents, for example,or teachers or therapists, or people working inorganizations or anyone, but in particular for parents. they could use this definition of the mind to help themselves makesense of their life and then to go out and to helptheir child develop fully. to become fully themselves,to have all these

positive benefits of secure attachments. so, in the different books i've written, they've all been synthesizingall the fields of science from mathematics and physics to biology and psychology to sociology and anthropology,all of them together into one framework andi named that framework interpersonal neurobiologybecause it meant what was happening between us,

that's the inter part,but also what's happening within us, that's the making sense part. that's the personal part. so interpersonal is boththe subjective inner feelings you have, the memories you have, the thoughts you have. but it's also what happens between us. this was what i was teaching years ago and one of my students,who, actually a person

in an audience at aworkshop, she came up to me and said "can i study with you?" and she came and studied with me. she had a little baby athome and then ultimately, she had three sons at home. she raised these three sons that way as we had been raising our kids that way. and so tina bryson who wasthat student, now a colleague, she and i wrote a bookcalled the whole-brain child

which basically teaches parents how to bring integration in their lives. you've now brought integration to yourself which is the essential starting place. how do you bring integration into your interaction with your kids so you can develop integration in their brains? and that's what thewhole-brain child is all about. that was built on topof another book which i

had to have writtenfirst and i wrote it with mary hartzell, my daughter'spreschool director, because really if you think about it, the research is very clear. you've got to start withyourself as a parent. so we wrote a book calledparenting from the inside out. how a deeperself-understanding can help you raise children who thrivewhich offers parents

a way of step-by-step learning

how to make sense of their lives. (upbeat music) (hopeful music)