parenting for dads

hello, i'm doctor bernice bernhard, a newyork state licensed psychologist, practicing here in new york city. in this segment we'regoing to be discussing effective parenting for younger children, approximately age twoto seven or two to eight. the most important concept is to remember, you want to catchthe child being good. children don't care whether they get positive attention or negativeattention. whenever you pay attention to a young child, they want more, and you can besure that they're going to repeat that behavior. yes, you can yell at them, or yes, you cangive them, you know, a slap, but basically that's negative attention and they will domore of it if not that day then the next day. so what we want to do is teach them that forevery positive behavior that they do, we're

going to set up one or two goals for them,we're going to carry on a lot, make a big fuss, and when they do something that we considernegative behavior, we're going to have a very neutral tone of voice and have a consequencethat's important. if they don't do a time out, and they carry on, don't use a time outby having them be in their room. choose something that they care about, maybe they don't havea bedtime story that night, or maybe they

don't watch a special video and that's theconsequence. but the most important thing is, you're not yelling, you're saying it ina neutral voice. make a good choice box, let them pick choices that are inexpensive andget a prize every night so that they know that the behavior is being rewarded. thankyou very much, this is doctor bernice bernhard.