parenting counseling

1 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:07,000 if you wishto be best parent, you need to look in the mirror 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:14,000 whoyou are? 3 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:20,000 it will be hard to be a parent when you are notfocused and do not have the self-esteem necessary to raise a child. 4 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:29,000you don't have to be perfect. 5 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:39,000 there are lots of ways thatyou can raise your children, but the best way is by modeling how you are as a personand what you want them to do. 6 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:44,000 there are many ways thatyou can make sure you have enough time for your children. 7 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:49,000in fact, there are many times when you can take the time that you need for your children.8 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:56,000 remember that

children don't always need to have time thatis only for them. 9 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:07,000 often, a child will enjoy any time that hegets to spend with you - even if that time doesn't seem that important to you. 10 00:01:10,000--> 00:01:20,000 any time can be quality time, as long as you are able to do it correctlyand make it worth it for you and for your children. 11 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:30,000no matter what you are doing with your children, it can be time that is completely worthwhileand that you will enjoy for years to come. 12 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:38,000 part of thereason that many people are not able to spend enough time with their children because theyhave so much else to do. 13 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:44,000 they might not feel like they have enoughtime to spend with their children because

they have so much else to do. 14 00:01:47,000--> 00:01:55,000 however, it is very important that you realize that all of the time youspend with your children can end up being quality time, in more ways than you think.15 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:01,000 it is often important that you are able to keep linesof communication open with your family. 16 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:08,000 keeping yourchildren talking is often the most important way that you can actually keep your kids onthe right track for success. 17 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:17,000 keeping your kids on thepath to success is often that your kids feel as if they can talk to you. 18 00:02:18,000--> 00:02:28,000 keep the lines of communication open 19 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:36,000 thebest way that you can do this for your kids

is to begin their lives by modeling it. 2000:02:39,000 --> 00:02:47,000 no matter how young your children are, and no matter whatpoint you are at in your life you want to keep those lines flowing from the beginning.21 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:56,000 you should start by keeping these lines as open as possible,so that you will be able to take advantage of having all of the time you can to talk.22 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:00,000 tell your children what is going on in your life, anddon't lie to them. 23 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:07,000 the best way to teach your children how totell the truth is to never lie to them. 24 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:15,000 this does notmean that you have to tell your children everything, including things that might be inappropriate.25 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:26,000 be open and

honest 26 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:34,000 rememberthat when it comes to your children, honesty is always going to be the best policy. 2700:03:36,000 --> 00:03:42,000 you want to

be sure that you can be honest, and thereforeyou should model it with your children. 28 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:48,000 your child knowswhen you tell him or her the truth and they trust you. 29 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:55,000when you take the time to look within your self and to be honest with your child, youwill gain their trust and their respect.